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How do you get them to pick up the list of chores for children that you've made up?
What you need is to try to help them see chores differently. They need to stop seeing them as horrible waste of time. They have to be able to just quickly ace them, because really, chores don't take that much time when you divide them all up among the household.
But more importantly, your children need to see that they actually want to do those chores. Child experts have a radical approach in the matter of planning for chores for children.
They feel that when you later children get by without any contribution to make, you aren't really doing them any favors. Instead, you're taking away from them the one way they have of feeling like a real part of the family.
According to the experts, a child needs to grow up feeling that what he does is needed by those around him. When he sees that, he feels important, and it helps his self-esteem. It makes him feel like he can do something that the world really cares about. He feels competent, he feels valued.
No matter how much you love your child, he will never feel as valued as he can, when he does something as simple as dusting and cleaning the entertainment unit. That's when he will believe that you love him.
In theory, all of this sounds fantastic, you're thinking. But does it really work out that way?
Here is a good way to see that it does. There's research that exists that looks at why young people drop out of college. When asked to guess at the reasons why young people might drop out of college, most people offer reasons such as money or family hardship. In truth, these are not the most common reasons.
Most teens who drop out, come from well-to-do families that completely take care of their college. They are pampered children who have to worry about nothing. And yet, they keep dropping out. Apparently, when a child doesn't invest much in life, he isn't that interested in life, either. This isn't what you want to give your child, is it?