It seems as if we have created a serious situation that has spoiled kids who can't be happy and grateful about anything. We all want our kids to be happy and one way we show it is to buy our kids whatever they ask for. It used to be that you only had to worry about this over the holidays and birthdays. These days though, it's more or less like the holiday season the whole year around!
That's the problem with trying to buy happiness for your children. You send them on a never-ending slippery slope of expecting stuff to maintain their level of happiness. The end result is a child who is spoiled, ungrateful and quite insufferable.
Are you one of those parents who are caught up in a “more stuff equals more happiness”child raising policy of your own making? Well, amazingly, three out of four parents in America admit to doing this, especially over the holidays. Many of them will even wait in line at the Toys 'R' Us store at two in the morning to get some hot ticket toy for their child.
There are a few things you can do to change the way things are. A great way to start would be to introduce your child to the concept of “no” for at least one thing during the holidays or birthday or something.
Ease your child into accepting no for an answer one little step at a time, and you'll find that the whole thing helps you child grow. You also want to make sure that everyone involved is on board with your plan. Once you say 'no' though , you don't want your child go to grandpa for appeal. This kind of inconsistent parenting can really be bad for a situation with spoiled kids.
As much as your child loves receiving, wouldn't you love your child to learn the joy of giving? You need him to see how fortunate he is, and he should want to share some of the joy by giving what he has to a needy family. If your child is old enough to have an allowance or a gift of money, you need to train your child to share it with someone who needs it more than him.
There's more than one kind of giving. You don't always have to keep your child things. Well-deserved praise can also be a wonderful thing to give. And it can help your child see how doing the right thing can feel good just for the praise into that warm feeling inside. Teach your children to appreciate that kind of thing and it's unlikely you'll ever have a problem with spoiled kids.
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