| Rewards of parenting - quality time|
with son and daughter
The first time my wife became pregnant, it was the happiest and most nerve-wracking day of our lives. We both wanted to have children and felt like we were both prepared. Then the reality of parenting a child actually set in and we began to think, “What have we got ourselves into?”
We became keenly aware that in about nine months, another human being will be brought into this world that is completely and entirely dependent on us for everything. The new baby is going to look to us to be his or her provider.
It is a daunting proposition. Then you start to think about all of the things that he or she will probably go through. Things like being picked on in school, falling off of a bicycle for the first time, or having his or her heart broken. You start to wonder if you made the right choice.
The thought of parenting a child suddenly did not seem like the picture-perfect scenario we had imagined. I was envisioning taking my son to Little League baseball games and on fishing trips. I imagined him being smart, popular and athletic, and I never thought about the fact that he would have to face some difficulties in life that would cause him pain.
My wife and I talked about it for a long while, and she told me that I was thinking just like a father. She said that parenting a child, like anything else in life, has its good points and bad points. All we could do was raise him the best way we knew how, give him all of the love and attention he needs and hope for the best.
When my son was born, I realized that I never should have second-guessed myself in the first place. There is nothing like the feeling of seeing your children for the first time and knowing that you are their father. Their whole life is ahead of them and they are so helpless, and it really makes you want to be a better person.
Two years later, we had our daughter, and got that feeling all over again. My son and daughter are both in elementary school right now and doing well. They have had their problems, but they have also had a lot of great times and seem to be pretty happy with their lives. Parenting a child is not always easy, but it has been the most rewarding experience of my life.